Friday, December 2, 2011

The Talk

Here's how it went last night before bed:

Me: Do you remember what kind of family we are?

Baby 4: Tell me

Me: We're a Fo-

Baby 4: Foster Family!

Me: That's right! Kids come to live with us when it's not safe at their house. We keep them safe while their parents work on making their house better. You came to live with us so that you didn't get sick or hurt at your house, remember?

Baby 4: Yes! (Insert details of his trauma)

Me: I know, I'm very sorry that happened. Baby 5 came to live with us because it wasn't safe at his house either and now we're a family. Do you know that your Mommy, Daddy, and Relative Resource are working very hard to make their houses safe so you can go there?

Baby 4: Why?

Me: Because they love you so much! Baby 5's Mommy and Daddy are working hard to make their house safe for him too. You are pretty lucky to have so many people who want you at their house. If baby 5 can go live with his Mommy and Daddy, will we still be family?

Baby 4: Yes

Me: Yes, we can still love each other even if we don't live in the same house.

Baby 4: Can you sing Jingle Rock?

Me: Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell, Jingle Bell Rock......

Court is this morning for Baby 5 and ,since I have no idea what's going to happen, it's really difficult to prep Baby 4. I hope I'm making it easier for him. We'll see in just a few hours.


  1. i think you are doing a great job :)

  2. Excellent job and a great resource for me as I might very well be having that talk with our daughter soon.