Lately, I've been reading way more blog posts than I've been writing. Mostly because I can read while feeding Baby 9 in the wee hours of the morning. I read this today and audibly gave a sigh of relief. This is what I've been needing to say: http://attachtrauma.blogspot.com/2013/08/dos-donts-adoptive-foster-parents.html?m=1
"Please: Do not tell me I am being too easy or too hard on her. Therapeutic parenting uses a different set of skills. Do not hide her inappropriate behavior from me or try to rescue her from discipline. She needs firm limits and boundaries to grow. Do not make excuses about her choices in front of her or say, “All kids do that . . . kids will be kids.” Do not give my child gifts because you feel sorry for her or believe we are not doing enough for her."
Hi there! I'm Heather and was wondering if you could answer my quick question about your blog! My email is Lifesabanquet1@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteI am a former foster child and I can tell you from experience that most foster parents are seek freaks. Who am I? My name is Jesse Larabee and I am a former foster child.
ReplyDeleteJesse,
DeleteI am planning to read through your blog thoroughly and learn from your experience. I believe listening to the children we have failed is so important. However, Are you supposing you have experience with "most foster parents" that you can make such a sweeping statement like calling us sick freaks? I believe you had a bad experience. I believe you, and I am sorry. I would like you to know, though, that there are foster parents who want to provide a safe place for a child while they need it. I am one of those people. I do not wish harm to any child or their family. I want them to be happy.
I value your story and want to know more. It seems you're really angry, and I am sorry that I can not fix that for you.
Hello,
DeleteI am not angry. I am more disgusted that people in this world can turn something good like foster care and turn it into something bad like child abuse. I started to let go of the anger and hate a few years ago....please understand that I was in goverment foster care but I was never provided with care but instead was child trafficked by strangers.
I am saying that the system is so corrupt in Ontario that there is now a class action lawsuit against the government for crown wards and former crown wards. Do you know that?
ReplyDeleteI am aware that there are good foster parents out there. The good ones speak out against the bad foster parents. Where are you? I am in Ontario. Ontario foster care system is so corrupt that there is a class action lawsuit now!!
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ReplyDeleteI was trafficked in the foster care system and have seen enough to know that if you work for CAS you are either corrupt or you are not exposing those who are corrupt (which is the same thing if you ask me). If there were any good CAS workers working for CAS foster care, they would be quitting and joining the Ontario CAS groups and helping expose this CAS corruption and child trafficking for profit. I have seen some workers do this but it is very, very, very rare for this to happen in Ontario. Most of the CAS and group home workers in foster care are actively abusing and exploiting and trafficking kids by taking them from loving family members.
ReplyDeleteSincerely,
Jesse Larabee former crown ward and class action member