Lately, I've been reading way more blog posts than I've been writing. Mostly because I can read while feeding Baby 9 in the wee hours of the morning. I read this today and audibly gave a sigh of relief. This is what I've been needing to say: http://attachtrauma.blogspot.com/2013/08/dos-donts-adoptive-foster-parents.html?m=1
"Please: Do not tell me I am being too easy or too hard on her. Therapeutic parenting uses a different set of skills. Do not hide her inappropriate behavior from me or try to rescue her from discipline. She needs firm limits and boundaries to grow. Do not make excuses about her choices in front of her or say, “All kids do that . . . kids will be kids.” Do not give my child gifts because you feel sorry for her or believe we are not doing enough for her."